From inhibition to empowerment
From inhibition to empowerment
How to apply the rapid emotional healing technique FastReset® to get rid of some emotional and physical troubles
- What is inhibition – The censorship of consciousness
- Inhibition and education – How to identify inhibition
- Treatment of inhibition reactions with FastReset®
- The resolution of the disablement – End of inhibition, beginning of empowerment
Inhibition is one of the emotional reactions that more frequently affect the ability to process other emotions and influence the start or maintenance of some unconscious physical defenses.
In this article I will give some helpful tips and information for the management of situations where this defensive reaction is predominant, through the use of FastReset®, the technique for emotional transformation and release that I developed. *
1. What is inhibition
Inhibition is a social emotion, so it can be felt only in the presence of other fellows.
It can induce us to block an action or an initiative, but also “freeze” self-expression, or the intention of clearly declare one’s own opinions, dissent or disagreement, with the intent (more or less conscious) to avoid a conflict or reprisals. These are imagined to produce, as a consequence, to be overrun, punished, excluded, rejected, mocked, and the like.
Inhibition configures a block reaction, so it has to be dealt at first, as well as it happens with disconcertment among primary emotional situations. Her presence and persistence in the dysfunctional situation we are dealing with may prevent – or make it longer, or very difficult – to transform other subsidiaries emotions related to the event or situation we are working on.
In other words, inhibition not only freezes the body and its responsiveness, but also blocks the access to awareness and the ability to dissolve other emotions related to it.
Inhibition is one of the most “physical” reactions, and may occur with a feeling of blockage, hamper or “freezing”, usually felt in the chest, throat, shoulders, which generally affects extensively the respiratory muscles.
The censorship of consciousness
It’s also very often censored by consciousness, because it is not always easy, for cultural reasons, to admit of being blocked, or stuck at the very idea of the reaction of others or at the mere presence of another person.
The cognitive and evolved component of our mind, in fact, usually “knows” that there is no actual danger of getting into a real conflict with the person who activates our inhibition reaction.
Nevertheless, the physical sensation of blockage related to this situation contradicts the mental-cognitive “idea” that it is not necessary to feel inhibited, and generates an instinctive behavior that leads to self-protection and to be stuck. All this impairs the possibility of a realistic assessment and of engaging a more appropriate behavior.
Often, therefore, we can tell ourselves some “good”, pseudo-rational reasons, so “we decide” not to expose ourselves, not to intervene, not to let others hear our true voice and will: I’m not ready, I don’t know what to say, I don’t want other problems…
2. Inhibition and education
Inhibition is currently used in education. A small child may run into many dangers due to inexperience and incompetence; parents and teachers, if the child is not yet able to understand and ensue why it is necessary to avoid potentially harmful behavior, often resort to intimidation (shouting or glaring at him, for example) to block him and avoid the worst.
But if the message of the need to suspend the action is given in situations of crisis or alarm, and with a sudden, unexpected and invasive mode, it can be charged with threatening significance. In this case, it can trigger a neurological and muscular instinctive response that may recur automatically in subsequent experiences, though not really limiting or inhibiting the subject.
So, what began as an attempt to protect the little ones, unable to manage themselves, can become a veritable injunction that the body receives to block its action or its momentum. The threat if this order would be unattended lies in an obscure, negative result: annihilation, punishment, refusal, expulsion or derision.
The automatic and self-defending mechanism, therefore, can prevail over the ability to respond more correctly and adequately to signals arriving from environment. This can often perpetuate irrational behaviors, so deemed even by the subject himself, or can impair his ability to express with words or gestures what he would really mind to do.
How to identify inhibition
Fear of public speaking; inability to expose one’s own opinion or disagreement in the family or at work; deep and inexpressible feeling of being powerless, unfit, “wrong”, but also food and digestive problems, headaches, back pain and injury, sexual impairments are just some of the common scenarios in which the subject is likely to be involved in a reaction of – more or less conscious – inhibition.
Inhibition is also found in many emotional situations that apparently can be unrelated to that: impatience, anger, frustration, feeling of injustice, sadness, low esteem, and many physical symptoms related with anxiety and alarm. Until the subject complains about situations or people who are capable to inhibit him, the standard treatment (with FastReset® or other techniques of emotional resolution) of all emotional reactions related to this condition can’t have maximum effectiveness.
Sometimes, pain at the shoulders, at the back, at the head or at limbs can be related to a chronic muscle contracture. It can be elicited by the inhibition of a never-expressed action or movement of self-defending or contrasting, The impulse of action still remains in the subconscious and is replied even when not really needed. Even digestive disorders, typically in the stomach, can spring off a situation of a still not processed and not integrated inhibition.
Pretending not to disturb or ask for help, and the claim to be perfect, always up the situations or others’ expectations are all conditions that must make us suspect the presence of a subconscious reaction of inhibition.
The impossibility of being oneself and to really know what one wills, or the constant doubt of really wanting whatever one is doing also reveal the existence of a psychological inhibition mechanism.
Also having to first settle the others in order to feel “ok” and able to finally take care of oneself, if it takes away energy, ability and happiness is typically the result of a profound inhibition mechanism. And so it can be in the presence of low self-esteem, or self-accusation and self-sabotage/restraint beliefs («I’ll never be able to do this») or of evident insecurity about one’s capabilities and resources.
In short, it’s really easier to answer who among us is not invested and engaged in a more or less conscious reaction of inhibition, rather than who isn’t.
3. Treatment of inhibition reactions with FastReset®
The first, and certainly the hardest, thing to do is to individuate the presence of a (subconscious) reaction of inhibition. We have already seen usual criteria to suspect it: «In front of who or what do you feel stuck and can’t express yourself, your talents, your actions and choices?» could be a key question to ask the subject being treated.
But who knows the technique is also aware that the treatment itself is actually very simple: you start by focusing attention on the emotional reaction, searching for the presence of physical sensations and quantifying their extent.
Then you formulate a sentence for integration, which allows the rational component of our brains to be fully aware of what the emotional component is doing and what is its auto-instinctive and protective intent (that is, however, struggling with the personal intent). Let’s take a concrete example.
Let’s say that you want to ask your boss a special permit for family reasons. You know it’s your right, but you’re also strangely nervous because in your heart you doubt that he’ll get it well. You are in awe for a negative reaction of the boss – anger or denial, or something like that. In this case, an integration sentence might sound so: My inhibition to my boss wants me to avoid to conflict with him and to be opposed and rebuked.
Then you have to do a shift of attention, which is the deliberate and sequential transfer of the focus of your attention from the emotion you are feeling to one of the areas of the body whose mapping, in the brain, is dominant over other neuronal activations.
Typically, to obtain this we use both hands. Having formulated the integration phrase, you have just to shift all your attention on the sensations coming from the hands, for a few seconds.
Once you have done this, you can re-evaluate the intensity of residual inhibition reaction. If it is not entirely cleared, you can repeat (once or more times) the sentence of integration and the shift of attention.
Then you can do a new evaluation of the emotion you are treating and (if you like it) a release sentence – usually thus formulated: I let go from my inhibition to my boss everything that I don’t need, I don’t care and that does not belong to me anymore. After this, it is helpful to run a new shift of attention for a few seconds.
The treatment of a single item can take up less than a minute. Then, you have to evaluate the presence of any additional reactions.
Although, in most of times, in the case of inhibition probably you can get rid of it with a single “round” of FastReset, we can also expect some additional reactions: anger or irritation, blame or judgment against the boss.
In this case, it’s favorable to go on treating the emotion which has sprung out, choosing of course the most suitable integration it requires.
4. The resolution of the disablement
The resolution of inhibition never gives as a result an increase in aggression, but rather improves the ability to resolve the hindrance and to assess the objective absence of reasons that before impaired one’s own will.
In most cases the subject, having acquired a spontaneous – and upgraded – different version of the situation, can adopt a new strategy of behavior. This can take new benefit and balance to the subject and possibly to the social environment, without trying it too hard, without having to “exercise” in any way and without the intervention of other negative feelings.
In the eventuality that the latter appear (sometimes it may have residual anger towards people or the environment that was limiting the subject), simply treat them too as usual, to get a full resolution of the defect or malfunction.
End of inhibition, beginning of empowerment
Back to the previous case, it often happens that the new and spontaneous vision of himself enables the subject to take verbal and (most important) nonverbal attitudes and behaviors totally consistent with it. The posture, the tone of the voice, the gestures spontaneously hired by the subject confirm to those who first were able to fire inhibition in him that his position of subordination or acquiescence is over. And all this without having to force change, but quite natural.
Thus, the subject in treatment, without activating open aggressive behavior or attitudes, but usually rather firm and calm, can result clear and non-ambiguous to others. At the same time the others, through their own mirror neurons, may be notified of the change of his “personality”, and set accordingly, usually without even being aware of the change in their own attitude. Also to interlocutors, I mean, it will seem quite natural to contact the subject in a manner consistent with the way he’s now manifesting himself.
I often recommend those who begin to use the FastReset for treating (or self-treating) to spend a little time looking for situations or people that are most capable to activate an inhibition response.
This exercise is really an excellent omen to the recovery of self-esteem and of the ability to assert without fear their own vision and their opinions. Moreover, it makes people generally more loose, confident and self-certain, including to provide the basis for a new self-awareness and a new measure of self-expression and confidence.